As each year passes and I gain more experience navigating life, its pleasant events and its unpleasant events, I see around me and at times within me, a tendency for humans to live in “to me” consciousness.
This level of consciousness is so difficult to raise out of and overcome. This “to me” place of victim-hood where life is against you; happening unfairly to you; not supporting you feels a bit like swimming in mud. Consciously, it is the hardest level of consciousness to shift out of and move up to the next level.
The next highest level of consciousness is called “by me” consciousness, meaning, I help contribute into my reality; I co-create my reality; life supports me; I can choose how I live my life. I wrote about the four levels of consciousness in this blog if you’re interested in a more in-depth discussion of the levels:
Truthfully, life involves varying levels of struggle. Struggle helps us evolve, grow powerful, and serves as a positive force in our live that moves us forward to higher awareness; to higher consciousness; to greater positivity; to greater empowerment; to greater mastery. Struggle equates with putting rough diamonds in a Tumbler and tumbling, tumbling, turning, spinning those diamonds. As the rough diamonds struggle in the tumbler, their rough edges become smooth and shiny. In the struggle of the tumbler, burnt in the heat and fire of friction emerges the most beautiful shiny, gorgeous diamonds.
Struggle smooths our rough edges so the brilliance of our Inner Divine beauty shines forth. However, we are not meant to suffer. Our suffering comes from how we choose to meet the struggle. Do we meet struggle in “to me" consciousness or "by me” consciousness? Do we believe life is against us? Do we believe that life has our back?
Truly, this concept is a simple concept conceptually, one we can all understand intellectually, BUT a difficult concept to apply practically. If we succeed at applying practically the foundational assumption that life has our back; that life is in our favor; that events occurring in our life are not random, but are in support of us, then meeting life and its pleasant or unpleasant struggles or circumstances with a positive attitude is easy.
Our suffering comes from failing to adopt these fundamental foundational assumptions. When we choose to see life as against us, we live in victim-hood and continual suffering. Our job in life, our “true life’s work” is to raise our internal center of gravity to the level of happiness independent of external circumstances. If we accomplish this feat, then we can live without suffering and use struggle to benefit our growth and even more profoundly, our growth in consciousness.
I want to share a few techniques that I have used in the past to help facilitate this choice, in order to make the path easier for you: