One of the most fascinating things about Relationship Theory is that two people come together with each partner representing an amalgamation of the other's primary caregiver's worst traits in order for the two to begin a healing journey together... Isn't that simply a perfect set up?
Applying the 90 second rule to irritation and frustration!!
Some of you might remember when I've talked about in the past how they have tested in the laboratory that a pure emotion lasts only 90 seconds if we actually allow it to be experienced fully without judging it or trying to stop it… Sound familiar?
When contraction stops working...
One of the tools that I used in the past as a management tool, a strategic tool for feeling safe, managing uncomfortable situations, was contraction. I could pull myself back all around myself and create a little safe environment that gave me a sense of power, sense of strength sense of safety.
I have noticed that this month, I have felt more fatigue as I've had MANY more social demands with/and for the holidays...I assume I am not alone here - sound familiar?! Though you'll be reading this after the holidays or just before New Year's, I think the techniques will support you navigating life, or in particularly stressful times at work, in your family, or anytime that you need a little extra help.